Tuesday, May 17, 2011

Slow Down - One Year Anniversary for Cousin Natalie

With the one-year anniversary of my Cousin Natalie's death approaching, it is time to reflect on life, take in the moments of joy and remind myself I have to slow down. Today, I received the following forward from my future mother-in-law and its timing couldn't be more perfect. I am so pleased to have spent time with one of my Maid-of-Honors, Tara, at her husband's graduation from law school this weekend. She is pregnant and due in July and looks amazing.
I also got to see one of my closest cousins on my dad's side, Shanti, who is also pregnant and due in July as well, and beaming with happiness. She lives in Hawaii so it was the first time I've seen her in quite some time.
And I had an early dinner with a former clerk of mine in Albany, CA and it was just nice to chat it up about life, a hint of politics and the future. My Cousin Natalie never had children and as she was ill, I believe her sister, my Cousin Donna, said she was glad that she didn't have children because she didn't want to leave them.

Thinking of you, Cousin Natalie. Always. We miss you.

READ THIS VERY SLOWLY... IT'S PRETTY PROFOUND.

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.

How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word 'refrigeration' mean nothing to you?

How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ' Jeopardy ' on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said , 'How about going to lunch in a half hour?' She would gas up and stammer, 'I can't. I have clothes on the line.. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain' And my personal favorite: 'It's Monday.' She died a few days ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because we cram so much into our lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!

We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of 'I'm going to,' 'I plan on,' and 'Someday, when things are settled down a bit.'

When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now....go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to...not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? I had a friend from high school that I was always going to call and never did. The other day her name was in the obituaries so we never had that chat.

Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask, 'How are you?' Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, 'We'll do it tomorrow.' and in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say 'Hi'?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away.... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over..

Show your friends how much you care. Send this to everyone you consider a FRIEND including me if you consider me a friend. If it comes back to you, it affirms your circle of friends.

To those I have sent this to... I cherish our friendship and appreciate all you do.

‘Life may not be the party we hoped for... but while we are here we might as well dance!’;


Take a moment...
For yourself...
You never know how positively it'll effect someone.

1 comment:

  1. Yes, I went to visit Natalie on Saturday. I couldn't believe that the date was coming so fast. I speak to her now more than I have ever did, and that fills me with constant regret.

    I do try to make time for my loved ones, but I often feel like I'm suffocating them, when I really just want them to know that they're important to me.

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