Tuesday, January 28, 2014

The 10 Types Of Toxic People That Mentally Strong People Avoid

Say goodbye to those dark clouds. They're blocking out your sun. You really can't help those that don't help themselves. It's draining and exhausting.

"If your life sucks, then guess what? It’s mostly, if not entirely, your fault."
"You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice." - A Universal Paradox
Avoid the unintelligent. It's "a result of continually making bad decisions and not learning from their mistakes for their entire lives." It's like, "Really? Again?"


Thanks to a friend that posted this on Facebook. Read the below article as posted in Elite Daily.

The 10 Types Of Toxic People That Mentally Strong People Avoid

Other individuals affect us more than any other factor in the world. They are the most unpredictable, the most mysterious and the most exciting — at least, some are. There are other types of individuals, however. There are those who are more toxic than they are precious. If you want to live the best life possible, you should surround yourself with the best people possible.
More importantly, you will want to avoid all the toxic ones who will make you worse off for knowing them. Mentally strong people understand the importance and influence that human beings have on one another and use this knowledge to their advantage. The mentally strong aren’t flawless and aren’t impervious to all. With enough damage coming from enough sides, even the strongest will fall. The trick is to plan ahead and avoid those that make up the worst of the worst:

1. The Showoffs

Those who feel the need to be showy are always compensating for something and trying to prove their worth to themselves. Unfortunately for them, this is how you know they have little worth. Showing and trying to make other people envious is a waste of time, unless you’re trying to make yourself feel better about yourself at the expense of others. People that do such things are not the kind of people you want to keep around.

2. The Unintelligent

I’m not talking the kind of dumb that can’t be helped; I’m talking about the kind of dumb that is a result of an immense ego, voluntary ignorance and self-righteousness. Most of us know at least one or two people who are completely unintelligent as a result of continually making bad decisions and not learning from their mistakes for their entire lives.

3. The Leeches

Growing up, we’ve all had or been that friend who was always a bit broke and always happy to take a handout. When our friends are at a difficult point in their lives, there’s no reason not to help them out or to offer to pay for a few rounds of their drinks so they come out and have fun with the rest of the group. The problem is when the person seems comfortable in the position and is making little to no effort of improving their financial situation.

4. The Lazy

Laziness is a disease, one that is highly contagious. Lazy people make other people lazy. The more you hang around the immobile, the less you will feel the need to be mobile. The mentally strong are not impervious. Hang around lazy people too often and you’ll notice your productivity and general enjoyment of life plummeting.

5. Anyone Who Lives By The Saying, “YOLO”

Understanding that you only live once can put your life in perspective. In fact, it should put your life in perspective. Yet, the Biebers, Drakes and Mileys of the world somehow managed to get the message completely backwards. YOLO: Let’s get wasted and high, do stupid sh*t, throw up all over ourselves and possibly die while we’re at it! Yes, YOLO. The whole origin of this saying doesn’t suggest doing pointless, dumb crap. YOLO means you should spend your time doing something meaningful, with a purpose. YOLO: You have once chance; don’t screw it up.

6. The Big Talkers

Those that spend their time running their mouths spend little time doing anything else. It’s the mentally strong that don’t bother doing the talking because the work they are doing speaks for itself. The talkers, on the other hand, have nothing but the empty words they’re speaking.

7. The Constantly Depressed

Not those that have an actual chemical imbalance, but those who act like they do. We all know people who are always feeling bad for themselves, always complaining about how difficult their lives are and how unlucky they are. Bad luck is not a lifelong circumstance. If your life sucks, then guess what? It’s mostly, if not entirely, your fault. Don’t keep these folks around unless you want them to bring you down with them.

8. Those Who Stay Within Their Comfort Zones

If we wish to live a life of adventure, then those who aren’t adventurous need be avoided. All those you meet and come across in your life are partners on your journey, if only for a few seconds. Those we keep around more regularly end up steering our direction more than we realize. If you hope to leave your comfort zone regularly, then don’t hang out with those who aren’t willing to leave theirs. Their chain simply isn’t long enough to go for the ride.

9. The Non-Dreamers

Those who can’t dream don’t live. Life is about believing that things can be better — not just for you, but for everyone. What makes people human is dreaming and hoping that the change to come will be for the better. Those that don’t dream won’t allow you to dream, either, and will do their best to prove to you that your dreams are just that: dreams.

10. The Non-Believers

Worse than those who don’t dream are those who dream, but don’t believe that they can turn those dreams into reality. Those who don’t believe in themselves don’t amount to anything in life. They are the losers — those that are always there, but don’t influence the world. They live in a gloomy and depressing world where their lives are out of their hands. They go with the flow and never attempt to achieve any sort of success. Don’t rely on them to support you when you need the support, either. If they don’t believe in themselves, then they sure as hell won’t believe in you.

This is what I choose to surround myself with:

Niners playoff Game at my house & shots by my Cugino
Megan & I at Mua in Oakland, being us as usual
Oktoberfest at Craneway Pavillion in Richmond, CA. Love my girls, Megan Z. & Nikki B.
Celebrating an awesome birthday with my family. You can't beat it.
Are you ready to part with those dark clouds?

Sunday, January 19, 2014

Thanks, But No Thanks

I am not a typical saleswoman and I have no desire to be one. What I am able to do is provide information to those that are receptive to it and allow them to make up their own mind on what to do with that information. My approach is to be casual and genuine but informative. I enjoy being a Stella & Dot Lead Stylist because the job is mainly sharing information, wearing the product and sharing the opportunity. It is easy, non-intrusive and the products really do sell themselves. I intend to continue to have the same approach with my current venture.

I am open to tips on success, however it is very difficult to take one seriously when they themselves do not practice what they preach. Below is a recent response to a proposal by a self-proclaimed millionaire with some writing tips.

....you sounds excited but I tell you though your proposals are sound as far as I can see...you have to become more structured in your proposals to folks of experience like me or they will ignore you....never of ever ask anyone for something free - that kills your position of a business person 100% and you will be seen as a person of advantage...the reason why most folks do not become rich is that they lack that principal...I have 8 companies and they are all doing well and about to blow up over 100M.....if you can take time to put a few sentences together of the highest degree of finesse and ethics please do then I will invite you to participate with what I am doing...

After a day or so, I contemplated on how I would respond. Instead of replying with a marked up sheet in red ink with editing remarks, I plainly replied, "Thanks, but no thanks," and wished him luck. This business relationship wasn't meant to be and I did not want to waste anymore energy on it. Acknowledging that gives me the power to put my efforts elsewhere. Not to mention, proper punctuation is power too.


What was the best thing you have ever said "NO" to?

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Happy New Year!

It has been so busy during the holidays and now we're half way thru January! And for most of you, today is even pay day and hump day. Half way there to the weekend, Folks!

A lot has been going on! The Niners face the Seahawks for the third time this season in the NFC Championship game in Seattle. The game takes place this Sunday, January 19th at 3:30 PM PST. I am nervous but excited. We are in a #QuestForSix

I had folks over for the Niners v. Cards game and that was fun! Thankfully they won.


I missed the 2nd half of last weekend's game against the Panthers but we won that too! I had to finish my safety motorcycle class. I passed! I can't wait to ride my 1998 Honda CBR 600 F3. She's so pretty.


A few of other graduates and I went to City Beach and grabbed a drink and free garlic fries. Two of us were definitely wearing some Niners gear. And it was so funny that a former coworker at The Bridges Golf Course was also in my class. Good thing he recognized me because I couldn't. But the more I thought about it, we put two and two together and figured it out. Small world. 


Besides sports and my new ride, I am excited to be working on getting Dirty Water restaurant and bar off the ground and get rid of some dark clouds that are blocking my sun. It's a new year. 2013 was amazing and full of so much love, adventure, surprises, fun, travel, lessons, gifts but also loss. 2014 is going to be incredible. I believe that.

For now, go Niners! And here I go continuing to put one foot in front of the other towards progress, growth and success.

What is in store for you this new year?